Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Small World


Dear friends of ours R and N in Chicago are avid cruisers. They are on high seas somewhere having grand of a time. Another friend couple, K and J from Maryland, go away on a cruise every X'Mas holidays. We had a plan to join them. But circumstantially we had to drop out.

K and J were having their meals on the ship when R and N walked by. Being of Indian origin they introduced themselves. R says to J you remind me of our friend charu in Chicago. J screams, do you know charu and bhupen?  Rest, one can fill in...

They will have drinks together and get to know one another.

Now, what are the odds..................

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Hijdas-Transvestites

They descended unceremoniously outside the gate on two boys' Threading ceremony. I saw them over the crowded room through a window. Not recognising any one of them I dismissed them as someone I have never met. I did not know many guests gathered in the room.

Slowly I began to hear some ruckus outside. I heard loud clapping. I noticed, the individuals looked like men but were dressed in sarees with long plaited hair contorting their bodies in a sexually inviting manner.  The noise got louder. The men were saying the boys are Princes; they look like Shah Rukh Khan, Salman Khan and many other Bollywood stars; they will be blessed with all good fortunes provided they are paid handsomely. 

Family members  resisited to pay. It got ugly. The men began to crash in the gate with abusive and foul language; cursing the boys. Hosts and  invitees were embarassed.

Finally someone paid them the money and they left. They started with a demand of 10,000 Rupees but left with 1,000 Rupees.

I had never witnessed such a scene, even when I lived in India. I was told that these "Hijdas" (Transvestites) descend on households with any kind of event celebrations. They make exhorbitant demands and will not leave until they are paid. I do not know whether it is true only in Gujarat or all over India.

Their demands are based on the facts that they will never get engaged, married or have children. Nor, anybody will hire them for a pay. How are they supposed to survive?

Beats me!

By the way, they have a code of honor; once paid no other Hijda will descend on  celebratory house for that occassion again!!!


My Cotraveller


I met a  fellow traveller on my flight from Chicago to New Delhi. She works for a Pharma company in a managerial capacity; young, pretty, soft-spoken and pleasant to boot. We talked small talks.

I want to thank her for the company she kept me. Most of all, I want to thank her for allowing me to use her cell phone to make two long distance but important phone calls. I offered to pay but she very kindly refused to accept.

Thanks my flight companion!

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Black Birds with Glossy Plummage



These have been the rainiest Spring and Summer in my memory. It was raining most of last night. I went for a walk this morning on a lake near the house. It is Saturday and was relatively early for Saturdays. No one was stirring yet. The backs of many houses in the area surround the lake. I was in the midst of soothing serenity when on my second round, I saw a jet black bird flapping its wings on the opposite shore of the lake. It had glossy black plummage. It will flap vigorously and stop eagle-spread, as if strutting its plummage, for a short while and start flapping again. I thought either it is drying off the rain from the night or it is strengthening its wings for a flight or it is admiring the reflection of its plummage in the lake. The bird had a palpable swagger in its routine. It was quite amusing.

(It reminded me of a story of a moose admiring its crownlike antlers but detesting its strong and skinny but ugly legs in a reflection. The fable is from Panch-Tantra-Katha-Mukham, Word of Mouth Stories. When a hunter chases the moose, it is the antlers which get him tangled in thickets while the ugly legs carry him far from the hunter.)

Whether it was an Egret, a Heron or a Crane I could not tell. It continued to flap and strut alternately for at least five to seven minutes. Now I realized that there was another bird of the same species sitting and watching it right next to it. Suddenly, the first bird took flight and circled the lake twice. Both times it flew very close by me. I could see its yellow to orange beak.  After the second circle it flew away. The second bird still continued to watch and scour the sky. I still do not know what birds they were.

I, then, concluded that it was a mother bird watching over its fledgling strengthening its wings and taking its maiden flight. Perhaps, they are  never to meet again......



Saturday, July 30, 2011

Clouds with Rainbow colors-A vision

Yesterday I saw a vision in sky. I have seen several Rainbows in my life; sometimes double and/or triple. But these were clouds with rainbow colors. I was in awe. Looked so beautiful. I asked Bhupen to take some pictures, as I was on my way out.














Monday, July 25, 2011

Uninspired



Feeling absolutely uninspired.......................for anything, everything





Sunday, June 19, 2011

Le Quattro Volte

I believe the title means Four Stories.

The scene opens with a ground full of smoking holes, reminiscent of lava or geyser vents.  The camera pans onto the small Italian village countryside and into a small spartan room where  an old man, ready to retire for the night, is mixing something in a glass of water. He is coughing  away while stirring the mixture. He drinks it and retires for the night.

He is the hero of the first of four stories; a goat herder making living delivering goat milk to locals. A sweeper of the church pays for the milk with the dirt collected from the floor which she herself has blessed. The old man drinks this dirt as a remedy to his hacking cough every night. The nightly routine is severely disrupted when he one day loses the package in the mountains while still herding. When he realizes it he runs to the church but it is too late. Nine p.m. The sleepy village is already abed. The man dies next morning.  

Next story, one of old man's goats delivers a kid. The kid is separated from the mother and the herd and freezes to death in mountains.

Third story is about how the people of this sleepy town, even during the day time,  entertain themselves by logging an extremely tall tree. They erect this tree straight up again in the middle of town square. A man scales the tree and shows off his valor when people topple it with him in it.

After the town square show, the tree is sawed off and trucked away by the people who convert the wood into the charcoal for the locals. The process of converting the wood into charcoal was quite interesting. The wood pieces are arranged in a circular shape, thatched with hay, wood sticks and old charcoal bits. Now it looks almost like an igloo, except not of snow. It is ignited from within and the center. Eventually, smoke comes through the vents. That is how the movie had started.

The stories are simple and human. There are absolutely no dialogues. Music is barely audible but very pleasant to ears. When there is no conversation to distract, one notices more details in the film. I could see a red ant crawling on herder's face and he was too old to shake it off his face. The Italian Town is a lazy sleepy town. The countryside is very mountainous full of mists. It is extremely beautiful and picturesque.

I remember David Lean, one of my favorite directors, once telling an interviewer that a good director pans the camera long enough for audience to keep wanting it more but not that long that they lose interest.

The photographer panned the camera long and wide. He seemed to have followed that tenet of movie making to a tee.

I adored this movie. I love the total silence. Because, to me............ silence speaks volumes.




Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Tantacles



I visited Photoshop after a very long time. I am very happy with the results.


Tantacles


Sunday, June 5, 2011

Calcutta, now Kolkata


After a delicious Top Shelf Margarita at a dinner out last night our conversation turned to reminiscence. I talked a lot about my CAG school days. Mostly,  teachers and school friends. While they call the city Kolkata, it will always remain Calcutta to me. 

According to my niece who spent about six months with us, she has never heard anybody in our family talk about Calcutta as much as she has from me.

She is right.

Calcutta is almost never out of my mind.

I am going down the memory lane now. Somethings I remember very well, others not. I have always envied people with photographic memories.

I often visualize  the spacious road we lived on; the neighbors we had; the games we played. I map out the everyday walking route I took to my  school. I remember the way but not the shop keepers except a fabric merchant, Primus repairer and a snack shop owner.  I believe there was a pottery store at the corner of main road and the side street. During Monsoons, I remember treading the road in knee deep water mixed with sludge. Rains were so heavy that drainage system could not cope with water. Many times we would step on some crawly creatures we did not know what they were. An eeck would  go through my body. Most of the times we would be soaked through to the bones for the lack of umbrellas. Umbrellas were , often, ineffectual in torrential rains.

I remember some of my teachers; Sumita Sen,  Monjula Choudhry, Panna Bhatt, Padma Vaswani, Pankaj Mehta(?) , Devendra Dave. I do not remember who taught what in which standard. Class mates I remember are, Kalavati Coonverji Shah, Jaswanti Manek, Damayanti (?), Madhumati Shah. Other school friends were, Manorama Shah, Dipika Kadakia, Ranjan Surati(?), Rashmi Joshi, Manna Sheth(?). 

One of my fondest memories is, during  recesses one of the school guards, whom we used to call Darwanjees, would call me out of the line of hundreds of girls first and pour water on my hands to drink. We did not have water fountains we have here. There is an Indian method to drinking water; one pours and the other drinks. He always favored me over other girls. After many years, when I went back to visit my school once, he was there and still remebered me. I wonder if he is still alive!

I remember the street vendor, Mamoo, who sold Moshla Mudi, a local snack favorite. I often retrace the way to weekend outing destination; Victoria Memorial . But I do not remember how we went to Eden Garden. How on many Sunday mornings I, with my younger brother and sister, walked to Esplanade.

During couple of my college years I  took number six bus to my college, Shikshayatan. My favorite professor at the college was named Mrs. Pant. She taught Commercial Geography. There was another Professor I liked, Miss Mitra. She taught Philosophies of Francis Bacon, Renee Descarte, Emanul Kant and I forget who else. 

Then, I left Calcutta for good. But......... Calcutta never left me.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Sons and Lovers

Night before last I finished  'Sons and Lovers' by D.H. Lawrence. It is a tome of a book; but only in length. It took me some time to finish.

It was touted as one of the masterpieces of its time. Maybe.  I do not have an evolved sense of critique, but I do not think it was a masterpiece at all.

The story is about a Walter Morel's family with a wife, three sons and a daughter; Gertrude, William, Paul, Arthur and Annie.

When I took up the book with the name such as it has I thought it would be about the sons. It is actually about a son, Paul. Annie has been shown to have a small role towards the end when mother is dying. But Arthur is almost entirely ignored. After oldest boy's, William's,  untimely death Paul has become the center of his mothers existence, or shall I say mother has become the center of Paul's existence. He  develops relationship with two girls, Miriam and Clara, both willing and able, one after another, and yet  leaves them without due causes. He cannot form a lasting relationship because his mother does not approve of either girl.

Hundreds of pages have been written about Paul's intellectualizing and philosophizing during these affairs. But one cannot clearly understand Paul's mind. With all that romancing and intimacies with two girls, we do not know that he has even a mustache till the four fifths of the book. Many paragraphs started with "one day...". I do not consider this a good beginning for a paragraph from a very good writer. Lot has been written without saying much. And lot has not been said which could have made the book more understandable.

Mother eventually dies of tumor. Paul wants to kill himself but decides instead, on a long journey.

One thing I liked about the author's writing style is that he uses short sentences unlike his contemporaries who wrote paragraph length sentences. The concept of feminism was used which I thought was well ahead of their time.

This is the only novel I have read which is based on "Oedipus" complex. I think this novel could have been abridged and certainly with a more apt name.






Tuesday, May 24, 2011

UPS Delivery Service (United Parcel Services)


Week before last week UPS delivered a package to our door. Address on the package was ours but not the name. We thought we should look at similar named street in our area  and see if we can hand deliver it to the right individual. After several attempts we did not find the right address or the party. So I called UPS  last week and explained that package does not belong to us. The lady at the other end asked me to leave the package outside our door Monday morning and somebody will pick it up.

Nobody came.

This morning I left the package out again. While I was going for a walk late afternoon, I saw a UPS truck making delivery to one of my neighbours. So I asked the driver if he would kindly pick up the package for me; it was misdelivered and I had already called his office about it.  He said nobody had informed him to pick up any parcel from my home. I said, as long as he was here would he mind doing it. He said, he had to make deliveries, and perhaps he will come back, and he left.

I went on my walk thinking he is not coming back.  He just wanted to get me off his back.

Lo and behold, when I returned from my walk after hour and twenty minutes, parcel was gone. He kept his word.

This is what is so likable about America. I felt bad having doubted his intentions....




Saturday, May 21, 2011

Apocalypse




Apocalypse

Since I am writing this, I guess Apocalypse did not arrive at its foretold time.


Faith defrauded us once again. God damn it...........sigh............a sigh of despair...........

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

More Beads

I have created a new Blog for my bead work under charu kaushik.











Saturday, May 14, 2011

Bhajia-Fritters





Someone sent me this video. A street vendor in Siddhapur, Gujarat, India is removing fritters from boiling oil by his bare hands. I know it is not happening.

I saw it several times. I tuned out commentary, I concentrated on the star, I observed his hands and I observed the audience around the star. Only noticeable; same five-ten seconds footage is shown repeatedly. Therein is the answer, but how? 

If I only knew how I am being tricked............



Sunday, May 8, 2011

"This is it"



Over the years I have seen Michael Jackson grow from a cute little boy to an eccentric big talent. I have liked many of his songs. I have watched his stunning trademark "moonwalk". I have seen him shy, fidgety and nervous in interviews.

But in "This is it" documentary which was to be released after his last world tour concerts, I noticed something I never did before. During rehearsals he was in total command of his as well as others' performances and contributions. He was dripping with pure talent and confidence.

His dancing was smooth and seamless. I felt he had two brains; one on his shoulder and other in his feet. His legs and feet operated independent of his torso and arms. And yet, they glided smoothly in unison. Two brains with absolute synchronicity!!!

Friday, May 6, 2011

Lawn and Earthworms


Our front and back lawns look atrocious. It has been like this for past several seasons. Our landscaper mows the grass, fertilizes it, aerates it and when needed seeds it with Kentucky Blue grass seeds. We water it as and when needed. Nothing seems to help.

I also have noticed that I do not see as many earthworms lately. So far this season I have not seen a single one.That is also for past several seasons.  It used be that, after a shower they will crawl out of the ground. Frequently it would be difficult to avoid stepping on them.

I wonder if there is connection between the two observations.....

Fantastical Greeds



I thank my friend for sending me this article. It is old but relevant and insightful.




Thursday, May 5, 2011

More of Beadwork

I have created a new Blog for my bead work under charu kaushik






Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Beadwork

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Sunday, May 1, 2011

John Rabe


Having seen so many Nazi-Era movies whether in color or black and white, I feel I need a drink after the show.

Last one in a string of such movies was John Rabe. It was the years of Nazi times but atrocities were inflicted by Japanese; on Chinese. By risking his life and wealth, John Rabe saved hundreds of thousands of Chinese lives in safe zones created by him in Nanking, China. The year was 1937.

I literally, and I mean literally,  feel physical pain when I see someone fall or even trip let alone be killed and tortured. I know it is not believable; but so is the case. The physical pain sharpens multiple folds when I think; if the depiction in movies is half as true as the reality, I am ashamed to belong to a race called human.

One might ask, why then, do you watch such films. I can only reply, that among all such atrocities one often finds sole do-gooder soul who risks all to qualify to be a human; and it warms my heart.

I ask, do I have the courage to do it if I were him?  It frightens me to even pose such question.....I am a coward,  which disqualifies me as human, once again.



Saturday, April 30, 2011

Fedoras

I watched Kate's and William's wedding for four hours! The Bride looked beautiful and the Groom not so much. 

The Royal wedding was smooth, but the Royal Hats on Royal Heads were royally jarring.


Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Book and Movie, Dorian Gray



I recently finished reading Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde. Then, I happen to catch 2009 movie version of the same name. I liked neither. Book was bad, but the movie was worse.







Monday, April 4, 2011

Owl and the Sparrow



Lonely, Mr. Owl only



Last night we saw a Vietnamese movie. An orphan, Thuy, runs away from her user-abuser paternal uncle's bamboo-shades-making factory.

To survive the streets of Saigon she sells post cards and roses to locals and tourists; sleeps on streets in cardboard boxes. Walking streets she meets two lonely hearts who are kind to her. Hai, an elephant tender has been jilted by his beautiful but snobbish girlfriend who wants him to get a "managerial" job.  Lan, an airline flight-attendant is seeing a married pilot but the relationship is at a dead-end.

Thuy, wittingly-unwittingly plays a matchmaker to these two lonley hearts. Like any 'feel-good' movie it ends with everybody living happily ever after.

The little girl acted well; so did the other main cast.

Saigon streets were reminiscent of any India streets; throbbing with life; abuzzed with activities of making living; barely surviving and not minding it.

What I liked about this movie is the tempo; slow but not boring; gentle but not mushy. Most of all,  I liked that it was a social-familial movie. I saw such movie after a long time and it warmed my heart. 

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Stoicism-Japanese Style




My brother-in-law, Ramesh Gandhi, built a segway to this piece for me.
Ramesh Gandhi is a tremendous Photographer. He is tremendous many many other things too. 

He just posted a beautiful Photograph, on his blog, of coils of rope with a caption "In The Loop".  The text, to paraphrase, says we will all die but do not know when, where and how.

Most of us are afraid of death...........except, perhaps many Japanese.  They are taking the current Nuclear Meltdown with looming death and disaster in stride. I do not see them ruffled. But Western Media seem ruffled that Japanese are not. Media do not seem to grasp Japanese stoicism.

I heard one Japanese woman say, when interviewed, we are all going to die; sooner or later. So, why be ruffled. It is a fact of living.

We all can learn to accept the idea of death from Japanese; a Stoic society







Friday, March 18, 2011

Cell-Phones



I do not take well to gadgetry. Mainly because technology frightens me as do the people who may be needed to fix them if something went wrong, and something invariably does. 

 I get amazed how people simply cannot do without cell phones. They must have great many important things to talk about. I have noticed that peoples' driving  has deteriorated since cell phones have arrived.

I do not have anything important to say nor am I chatty; thus, I have minimum use for cell phones. I use it only for emergencies.

However, I have found the best use for my I-phone. I have downloaded few books on my I-phone. In the middle of night, when I cannot sleep, which happens frequently, I read a book on my I-phone. The palm-size frame is so convenient to hold compared to unwieldy books. A sweep of finger turns the page. It allows me to read without turning on the lamps and disturbing my husband's sleep. It has another great feature of night light which makes it easy on my eyes to read. 

I solve few Sudokus on it too...... so...... I am not trashing my I-phone any time soon.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Pyramid Concept




Pyramid


Pyramid Shaped Peaks


Infrequently I have lunch with a friend.  Among the things we discuss, I often bring up how  societies can be viewed in the shape of a Pyramid. Individuals’ accomplishments or failures in any field in the World; country or society within it, can be graphed in the shape of a Pyramid. 

The inclines of pyramid may vary, but the concept applies. They can be graphed downside up depending upon what subject is being studied. The pyramids can and often will overlap, not unlike Venn diagram.

Mastery of any subject is graduated in any population group. The very best are few and are positioned at the top. The rest who are average and below average will be positioned lower according to their mastery level. The least proficient will form the lowest and therefore the widest base of the shape. For example, in the field of physics the least proficient will be positioned at the bottom. Most fall in this category. But the Hawkings and Einsteins of the world will hold apex position. Between these two tiers lie different grades of genius. 

Similarly, there are many poor at the bottom rung but only few Bill Gates or Warren Buffets at the pinnacle. Between these two extremes there are levels of poor or rich depending upon how one wants to study it. 

In the field of art there are few Van Goghs or Picassos at the top. Rest occupy different levels below them. There are more uneducated than there are highly educated.  I find this to be true in any field; Philosophy, Science, cookery, even sagacity. 


How one measures the excellence or lack thereof in any field is a different matter. I suspect that will be a controversial topic requiring a special discipline to evaluate it. The expertise in this field in turn can also be graphed as pyramid!

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Tragedy Tragic-Japan



Earthquake, Tsunami and Meltdown........  

How much more?

Isn't  it enough ?


Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Tunisia, Egypt and India

These are my mere opinions and  observations.

 
If someone asked me today that a rule of the people, by the people and for the people will take roots in Tunisia and Egypt; my answer will be a resounding 'no'; certainly not the type of rule we define as democracy.

In my mind I keep comparing the fight for self-rule in India to what has been happening in the Middle Eastern states. I see similarities between the two, in that, one, they were in most part non-violent fights and two, the incumbent governments were ousted.

What is different between the two scenarios is:

Tunisia and Egypt were ruled despotically by their own people; India, on the other hand, was being ruled by a foreign power. The power which was characteristically different from its own; starting from skin color, to religion, to culture, to food etc.

The fights in middle east are more or less reactionary. Public wanted to get rid of the current despots; but did not necessarily have plans for the future government. Despots were ousted within few weeks. Indian fight, on the other hand,  was a long drawn out fight during which time the plans for the future  government were, perhaps, discussed and laid out. India achieved the self-rule in August of 1947 and had her constitution, as imperfect as it was, drafted by January of 1948.  Democracy took roots in India. Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi who started the fight for self-rule held a law degree from London (1891). He started his solo fight against discrimination  in South Africa and ended with self-rule in India in 1947. Gandhi, having studied law, having lived and studied in London, probably, had better concept of what future rule should be like. Also, he was eventually surrounded by well educated and well travelled personnel who had better understanding of British and American systems of governance. Thus, Indian Democracy is a blend of the two, Prime Minister and a President. Irony is, India did not want Britishers but ended up with British style rule.

Having ousted the despots, general public from Tunisia and Egypt are fleeing their own land to Italy. Indians did not do that. Indians genuinely wanted a change with a plan in their back pocket.

This is why I do not believe the Democracy will take roots in Middle East.




Sunday, March 6, 2011

Let guests be gods-"અતિથી દેવો ભવ:"

I have decided that I will invite, at the most, only as many guests at a time as my dining table will sit. Advantages are;  proper sitting, manageable cooking, cleaning after and adequate attention to and good conversation with each guest.

Last night we had few friends over for dinner. The men of the group were Bhupen's friends from his BVM Alma-mater. Two of three couples, we had never invited before. We officially christened our renovated basement with their help. All men and two ladies drank alcohol. I had two Gin and tonic with a twist of lime which put me in a sort of flighty mood. All guests brought favors which they did not have to. But, Thanks to them.

The group intuitively gravitated to segregate themselves between men and women.  Finally it happened; we all gathered around the bar and next at the dinner table. Conversations mostly revolved around men's school days. I got to know one of the ladies little better. At one point Bhupen recited his poem he wrote about his years from school days to recent years. This poem was a take on Frank Sinatra song of 
"It was a very good year". I will post it separately in a different post.

Last night's menu:

Each item except dessert was made from scratch at home.

Appetizers:   Dalwadas with fried fresh green chillies (famous treats
                     from their Alma-mater town-Anand)
                     Okra chips

 
Entree:         Bengan Bhartha
                     Alu-Lal Mirchi Sabji
                     Poori
                     Kala Jeera Rice
                     Moong Daal
                     Kadhi
       
Sides:           Lightly sauted Guava-Green chillies (My aunt's recipe)
                    Banana/Cashew/Yogurt Mattho

Dessert:      Ras Malai (Purchased)

We enjoyed the evening, I hope our guests did too. I hope we did justice to a Hindu tenet of  hospitality :

"અતિથી દેવો ભવ:" 
(Atithi Devo Bhava-Let guests be gods)



                    

Monday, February 28, 2011

"Watson", Not the Sherlock Holmes' Assistant

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Watson_(artificial_intelligence_software)

I am a fan of Jeopardy Game show, which is relayed on TV every afternoon between 3:30pm and 4:00pm Chicago time. It is a question and answer game show. Host is Alex Trebek, a Canadian American. Three contestants participate. Each question is associated with an amount of money. Whoever collects the most money at the end of the show is a winner and s/he gets to come again next day. There have been contestants who have won millions of dollars. They have also played the game for years.

Rules are; the questions are to be asked in answer form and answers have to be given in the question form. Topics can be anything under the sky; anything at all.

It is a generally held belief that the contestants are; one, highly  intelligent and  two, they are well read.  True. You have to be. But, if you watch the show carefully, many times the clue is built somewhere in the question itself. So, if one is good at spotting such clues, one can easily answer the questions. Even I have been able to anwer few questions.  Believe that!

Now, International Business Machine, IBM, has been working on a computer software, which they have named "WATSON" after their first CEO. This computer was to first participate in this Jeopardy games, so that its viability in other fields can be ascertained.  It was pitted against the past winners of the most money, which meant very intelligent contestants.

I watched this show. "WATSON" won. It was intelligent, yet only as intelligent as the data it was fed. Now IBM will sort out the kinks spotted during the show.  Eventually IBM wants to employ "WATSON" in many  industries including medical field.   

This week's Time magazine has a question- answer segment on "WATSON".  Few questions seem to impute human elements to "WATSON" which answerer has denied..........

Computers will do many things better than humans can but they will never be humans.....


Saturday, February 19, 2011

A father's wisdom




Bapa and Ba-Left and right from center

 Following is an excerpt from a diary that my Bapa (father-in-law) gave to my husband when my husband first sailed for USA in 1964. The diary contained a parting father's fear, hope, concerns and advice for a son who was leaving the familiar shores of his land for the first time, and perhaps for ever.

He says:


"જમાનો કુદકે અને ભૂસકે આગળ વધતો જાય છે એ જમાનામાં તમારે રેહવું છે, દોડવું છે. રેહવું જોવેજ. નહીતર પાછા પડી જવાય. અને અમે તમારી સાથે દોડી શકતા ના હોઈએ એટલે કે જમાના સાથે દોડી શકતા ના હોઈએ તે માટે અમારી અને  તમારી વચ્ચેનું ઘર્ષણ સર્જાય. પાછલા  જમાનાવાળાને થોડુંક્જ જીવવાનું બાકી રહ્યું હોય તેમાં આવતા જમાનાવાળાને પોતાની સાથે ઘસડી લેવાનો કોઈ અર્થ નથી કે જેને આવતા જમાનામાં રહેવાનું અને જીવવાનું છે. પણ આ સત્યતો માવતરને સમજવાનું થયું. એનો અર્થ એ નથી કે સંતાનોને ના સમજવાનું લાયસન્સ કાઢી આપી શકાય."

 
He said:

"Times are changing by leaps and bounds. You have to, and you must, run with the changing times. If you don't you will be left behind. We, the old generation who have lesser time (to live), on the other hand, cannot keep up with these changes. This may lead to conflicts between the generations, old and new. But onus is on us, the old, to understand the truth that we must let you go and not drag you with us. This, in no way be construed that you have license not to understand this truth."


I read this diary several times. For the time, place and generation that my Bapa came from, and to have this understanding is "a generation before his time".

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Clean humor



A friend sent this and I find it to be clean and clever....


1.  My first job was working in an Orange Juice factory, but I got canned. Couldn't  concentrate .
 
2.  Then I worked in the woods as a Lumberjack, but just couldn't hack it,  so they gave me the axe.

3.  After that, I tried being a Tailor, but wasn't suited for it--mainly  because it was a sew-sew job.  
4. Next, I tried working in a Muffler Factory, but that  was too exhausting.  
5.  Then, tried being a Chef-figured it would add a little spice to my life, but just didn't have the thyme.  
6.  Next, I attempted being a Deli Worker, but any way I sliced it... couldn't cut the mustard.  
 7.  My best job was a Musician, but eventually found  I wasn't noteworthy.
8.  I studied a long time to become a Doctor, but didn't have any patience.  

9.  Next, was a job in a Shoe Factory. Tried hard but just didn't fit in.  
10.I became a Professional Fisherman, but discovered I couldn't live on my net income.  
11.  Managed to get a good job working for a Pool Maintenance Company, but the work was just too draining.  
12. So then I got a job in a Workout Center, but they said I wasn't fit for the job.  
 13.  After many years of trying to find steady work , I finally got  a job as a Historian - until I realized there was no future in it.

14.  My last job was working in Starbucks, but had to quit because it was the same old grind.  

15 . SO, I TRIED RETIREMENT AND I FOUND I'M PERFECT FOR THE JOB!  
 
 




Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Faith

Fluer






There is no cure for faith in faith
So
There is no cure for faith











Thursday, February 10, 2011

"Google_Baby"

Last night we watched a documentary "Google_Baby" first aired in 2009, directed by Zippi Frank, an Israelite.

It is about couples who cannot have babies but would do anything to have them. First Israeli couple, (husband Doron whose wife was not an active participant in filming, it seemed) had their In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and Insemination done in USA. They are now proud parents of a bouncing little girl but the procedure cost them something like $140,000; a sum not within easy reach for many such infertile Israeli couples.  

Doron hooked up with an Indian Surrogacy center, located in Anand, Gujarat, India (and later in Mumbai, India); run by a doctor named, Naina Patel. The doctor finds women in need of money for their children's education and/or for a new house.  The women are paid in vicinity of 2-4 lakhs of rupees by the infertile couples. It was not mentioned how much the doctor gets. She inseminates these women with fertilized eggs donated by only caucasian women and fertilized also only by caucasian men; in many cases fathers to be. Couples will have only and only caucasian children. The surrogate mothers are supported by the doctor in her center until delivery time. They are fed, sheltered and medically looked after for nine months. These women's husbands, inspite of their considering them "Brainless" , are more than willing bystanders. Easy money!

Fathers-to-be pick and choose the donors on the basis of color of eyes, hair, looks etc.  Procedure, from start to finish is conducted in Israel, USA and India.

This takes out-sourcing to a new level...........

It would seem a win-win situation all around, but I am shaking my head; something does not sit right with me and I cannot put a finger on it.........

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Devdasis-God's maid servants- शिवनिर्माल्य- Vestal Virgins

A friend sent me a link to Guardian article on Devdasi of Southern India. The young girls and women are sold or given away to please men sexually, under the guise of religiosity. These women's fate is permanently sealed with either ostracism, mutilation, diseases, begging or all. When one gives them a lofty name of Devdasis (Gods' maid-servants), one need suffer no guilt.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/jan/21/devadasi-india-sex-work-religion?intcmp=239

This reminds me of the similar custom of olden Gujarat province in India. During the reigns of Bhimdev I and Siddhraj Solanki, the beautiful young virgins, who were trained dancers, were donated by the parents to Shiva temples to dance exclusively for lord Shiva. They were called "Shivnirmalya" शिवनिर्माल्य. No mortal man including kings could touch or marry her. However, one such girl Chauladevi, historically, did marry king Bhimdev I. Perhaps, an act of defiance and perhaps, a life riddled with guilt.

One need not wonder why lord Shiva if one knew the idolic representation of this god.

This tradition was not very different from the system of Vestal virgins of ancient Rome.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vestal_virgins


Depiction of Vestal Virgin
I wonder how strict was the adherance in either system.


Monday, January 17, 2011

Black Swan

We saw Black Swan last night. Natalie Portman clinched the well deserved Golden Globe award, again last night.

It is a movie that lets you in the dark recesses of the obssessed, possesed mind of a Ballet artist; obsessed to achieve perfection and possessed by paranoia which ultimately becomes ballerina's  undoing.

Natalie's performance as a good, sensitive unworldly ballerina is beyond reproach. She projected fear, anger, pain, care and resolve as and when appropriate. Barbara Hershey as a mother who lives through the daughter's dream has acted well. Mila Kunis as a faux rival and Vincente Cassel as the choreogrpher are less convincing; perhaps because they were parts of heroine's  "paranoia". 

First half hour and some intermittant footages seem to have been shot by hand-held cameras which made you almost dizzy. Shooting with hand-held camera, I have found to be common in many movies of last few years; it was blatant in Constant Gardner.

The costume for the Black Swan was beautiful as well as realistic; make-up of Portman throughout the movie supported the mood of the scene.

Movie is worth watching once.

Friday, January 7, 2011

Shadows- साया

Shadows  -  साया

बूज गए दिल-ओ-दरके चिराग
घबराके थाम लेते सायोंका दामन
रोशनिका  होता कहीं
जो नाम-ओ-निशान
                        
Heart and hearth are so dark 
 Even shadows would comfort
Had there been a sliver of ray